This is a big question, and a loaded one. For some people, it’s meaningful to finally recognize that yes, I fall into this category. Others hold tight to the idea that everything in their lives has been just fine. They don’t want the label.

We’d all like to be more resilient. We’d like to be the people who bounce back from anything, always smiling, always thriving, never a tear or a harsh word. Resilient is the gymnast who bounces gingerly on sprained ankles. Resilient is the child who scrambles up with bloody knees and takes off running. Resilient is the divorced friend who immediately starts a new business.

I have been recommending the book, Attached, to lots of clients lately. It’s been around for 12 years now, but seems to be catching on recently. It goes through the three major categories of attachment, giving lots of clear examples of how that shows up in adults and how various combinations work together in relationships.